I have recently been diagnosed with depression and put on antidepressants. It has completely killed my sex drive and my long-term partner (we’re both men) has been getting agitated by it, so I offer a compromise that I read about online. It’s essentially an open relationship, but it’s called Friends with Benefits (FwB). He’s quite eager about it so we agree to trial it, as long as he keeps me aware of everything. It helps ease the tensions in the relationship, and for a few months everything is great.
After six months I’m coming off the antidepressants, but have said we can keep the relationship open if he wants. He decides, however, to end it with his other. He plans to do it over a weekend while I’m away on business. When I come home, our house is picked clean of everything that is his. I try to call him but he doesn’t answer. My suspicions are confirmed when his other boyfriend calls me and asks why my boyfriend’s been claiming I broke it off with him for the two of them to be happy. I explain my end of the story and we agree he is an a**-hole. He is completely dumped by both of us and is forced to move in with his parents.
It’s a few months later now, and his other boyfriend and I are now in a relationship (closed) and couldn’t be happier.
I don’t want to say the whole “open relationship” thing doesn’t work, as I think it was probably more my ex being unhappy and wanting a change. But I would’ve hoped a seven year relationship would have warranted more than lying and then finding out you’ve been dumped through your ex’s boyfriend!